Dear Readers >> On Sept. 23, I published two letters from older adults struggling to find a connection (“Still Grieving” and “Wants a Connection”). I asked those of you who have successfully found friendship and romantic partnership at a later stage in life to write in.

I shared some of those great responses last Thursday and, as promised, some more today.

In 2023, United States Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, MD, released a Surgeon General Advisory on what he termed “the public health crisis of loneliness, isolation, and lack of connection in our country.” Even before the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic, he said, approximately half of U.S. adults reported experiencing measurable levels of loneliness.

You’re not alone. But there are solutions in the letters below and also in the wonderful new book “Party of One: Be Your Own Best Life Partner” by Meghan Keane, the founder and producer of NPR’s “Life Kit.” It has practical and witty guidance for people of every age and stage of life.

Dear Eric >> After being widowed at 48 after a 28-year marriage, it did take me a bit of time to go through a grief process and reconnect. One conclusion I came to for me was: Divorced people need divorced people and widowed people need other widowed people. Then I discovered that a good connection was someone already ‘in my circle’: My close woman friend passed away and I ended up marrying her husband who I had not known when I knew her. Common interests brought us together and our common memories and familiarity with our community gave us much to build on. We married after getting to know each other over two and a half years.

— Find Your People

Dear Find Your People >> I’m so glad you found this new love. I think your point about finding those who can share and help us process life challenges is apt.

Dear Eric >> I personally think most adults are insincere, self-absorbed, back-stabbing, two-faced jerks, but people who do volunteer work tend to be among the most genuine, compassionate, loving and lovable people I’ve met.

— Giving Back

Dear Giving Back >> While I don’t hold as low an opinion of people in general, we share the love of volunteer work.

Dear Eric >> My wife and I retired and moved to a small town. I needed to find a pool as I swim daily. I signed up at the only pool in town, the local YMCA. It takes a bit of time, but you start talking to the people around you and who you see every day.We now have so many friends that we met at the Y, it’s as if we grew up in this town.

— Swim Meet

Dear Swim Meet >> Physical activity at the gym, a Y, or a senior center, even if one doesn’t exercise, can bring about so many social connections.

Send questions to R. Eric Thomas at eric@askingeric.com.