Dear Carolyn: I’m an artist in high school who’s been playing club water polo since fifth grade. Since freshman year, I’ve also been a varsity starter on my school team.

During winter season I was moved up, but my skills deteriorated, and I am anxious because my dad is incredibly serious about my performance. By the end of the season, I dreaded going to games, missed every shot I took, and teammates were visibly frustrated with me. I felt like such an outcast that all the passion had drained out of me.

My dad told me later, this was totally in my control; he’s signed me up for private lessons, and I have equipment to train outside of practice, but I don’t have the motivation.

I do love water polo, but because of the teamwork involved; I’m indifferent about the sport itself. My college counselor has also mentioned that if I’m not going for recruitment, then the sport is just sucking time from my schedule.

I completely agree, but my dad argues that I should be going for it. I know if I did try my absolute hardest, I’d be able to get into my dream college, but I want to be recognized for my art, not a hobby I consider a pastime at best.

Should I even continue with the sport at all? I’m not sure I have a choice.

— Athletically Tortured Artist

Athletically Tortured Artist: Of course you have a choice. It’s your body. Let your dad know he’s the one who wants you to get recruited, not you. Give your parents the clear statement of your priorities: art, friendship, teamwork. And, maybe more important, give them both the insight into your struggles.

You run your own life. Not your dad, coach, college counselor, friends or teammates. You.

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