Dear Abby >> “Looking Out for Mom in Chicago” (Aug. 16) was concerned that 69-year-old Mom wasn’t getting out and socializing now that she has moved closer to them, and worried they’ll be her only support as she ages. They also said she’s always been shy.

As a nearly 70-year-old introvert, I understand how their mom feels. Moving to a new place with no friends isn’t exactly a bad thing when you’re introverted. I get all the socializing I need when I go to town to shop and talk with familiar clerks.

To force an introvert into situations they aren’t familiar with is stressful on the person. It’s a terribly uncomfortable situation. People need to realize that there are folks out there who really ARE fine in their own company.

— Cathy in Wisconsin

Dear Cathy >> Thank you for lending your insight. Another reader who had “been there” also shared their experience. Read on:

Dear Abby >> As a social worker who has worked with elders for years, I guarantee that “Looking’s” mom will not respond well to, nor comply with, being told she “must” make friends and interact with others. She may be grieving the loss of her friends back home, her previous faith community and more. She may need time to reconcile all of this. If she’s active, staying healthy and taking care of herself, let her decide when she’s ready to reach out and broaden her circle.

Friendships and social activities can’t be forced. They occur organically. Rather than her son and daughter-in-law dictating what she should do, how about sitting down with her and gently exploring how she is adjusting, and how they can help her in a more supportive way?

— Silver-Haired in Massachusetts

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