Abuse of senior citizens is growing at a fast place all across our nation. The statistics are staggering, and abuse will only increase if measures aren’t taken to stop it. Often the abuse comes from a member or members of the person’s own family. The abuse can begin as simple as good intentions gone wrong. After gaining the trust of a person, it becomes easy to “dupe” a loved one into believing they are doing what’s best for them.

I know this to be true not only because it happened in my family a few years ago, but because a number of readers have shared their stories with me recently. Probably the reason we don’t hear more stories about senior abuse is because it is hard to share. It’s really tough to admit that one’s own flesh and blood can be so deceitful and hurtful to someone they’ve known and claimed to love for many years.

After my mother had a stroke, a trusted family member convinced her she was dying and promised to take care of her and her finances. True to his word, he cleaned out her house, sold everything she owned then put her house on the market. Fortunately I found out about it; she recovered, and we took her house off the market and moved her back in. Because he left her penniless, I was able to secure help for her where she lived through the Legal Aid Society.

A few weeks ago I listened as one of my readers told me about her elderly brother’s son obtained access to her brother’s bank account and spending every penny. While I was visiting my daughter in Texas, one of her friends told me about helping move her from Oklahoma to Texas and setting up her bank account only to have her brother sue her for misusing those funds.

Even though she had spreadsheets and ledgers showing where the money was spent he took her to court and she ended up paying more than $10,000 out of pocket to prove her innocence. And, heartbreak on top of heartbreak, he now has control of their mother’s finances and personal care.

Please listen. If these stories sound all too familiar to you, there is help. Wherever your loved one lives, you can find assistance to keep abuse from happening or find assistance to keep abuse from occurring, or find justice when it does occur.

If you live in Colorado and need information and assistance, check with some or all that are listed at the end of this article. My mother spent the last four years of her life agonizing and grieving over the wrong that had been done to her.

Don’t let this happen to your loved one. Get the help your family needs. You can make a difference in the life of someone you love.

The Family Resource is an independent public interest non-profit organization specializing in civil rights and discrimination issues.

They protect the human, civil and legal rights of people with mental and physical disabilities and older people throughout Colorado. Call: 303-722-0300.

Weld County Department of Human Services consists in part of the Family Resource Division which offers supportive services in post adoption, child abuse prevention and public assistance. For more information you can call Patricia Russell, Director of Human Services in Weld County: 2950 Ninth St., Fort Lupton; phone 303-857-4052.