Dear Eric >> I’m a 78-year-old widow, who has been without a cat for one year now; first time in my life. Is it fair to adopt a cat if I most likely only have one and a half to two and a half more years to live? I do travel as well. I do not have any family, so who would get the cat remains unknown. Maybe back to the adoption group? Is this fair to the cat? I feel I’m being selfish, or is a little time “at home” for a cat better than none? Please advise.

— Cat Lover

Dear Cat Lover >> The past year without a cat must have been so hard for you. It’s a rough transition after being with cats your whole life. There are solutions that can take into account what your future might look like, as well as what’s best for the cat. Considering fostering a cat or cats. This not only provides companionship for you and the cat, but can potentially help a local shelter free up space so that another cat in need of a home can come in. Your local shelter, humane society or refuge can point you toward the right program and get you set up with an application.

You might also reach out to friends and family to see if they or anyone they know needs a temporary home for a pet. Some of the concerns you wrote about can be assuaged by ensuring you have a support system in place for yourself and the cat.

Volunteering at an animal shelter is another great way of keeping pets in your life.

Both options will also put you in contact with other humans who can help you make a plan for the cat’s well-being. There are so many pets that need loving homes.

I think it’s more than fair to welcome one into yours.

Dear Eric >> Ten years ago, we lost our 27-year-old son unexpectedly; he died in his sleep. When people asked how I was, like the writer of the letter signed “Still Grieving”, who didn’t know how to respond when people asked, “how are you?” I could not say I was OK. My response became, “I’m managing.” I was managing to get from hour-to-hour/day-to-day. It’s simple and truthful and tended to end the conversation.

— Managing

Dear Managing >> That’s a graceful and succinct reply. And, as you said, truthful. I’m sorry for the loss of your son and I’m grateful for the wisdom you shared. We don’t have to hide ourselves from others, even when the truth is less than totally optimistic. Managing is where you were — indeed, where so many of us are — and that’s OK.

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