DEAR ABBY >> The woman I’ve been married to for the last 10 years is spending her time away from home. She isn’t seeing another man or hanging out in bars. She leaves at any time of the day and goes to the casino. She also plays online throughout the day or evening. She stays out all night until sometimes 8 or 9 o’clock the next morning.

I have tried talking to her calmly — and I’ve tried the angry way, too. I’ve gotten nowhere about this issue. I believe she’s being disrespectful, which will lead to the end of our marriage. How can I get through to her that what she’s doing isn’t good for our relationship? I’m very close to saying “Enough!” and it’s time for us to go our separate ways.

— Frustrated in Michigan

DEAR FRUSTRATED >> If what your wife is doing affects the financial stability of your marriage, you absolutely have to draw the line. From your description of her activities, your wife is addicted to the rush she gets from gambling. Suggest that she join Gamblers Anonymous for help, and you should explore a support group called Gam-Anon for yourself. However, if that doesn’t help, consult an attorney and tell your wife that if she doesn’t seek help, you will be forced to separate your finances, even if it means ending the marriage.

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