Dear Abby >> My partner and I have been together more than five years now. He has two adult children. I learned two days ago that I am pregnant. At 43 years old, I didn’t think a child was in my future. But now that I’m pregnant, I couldn’t be happier. I’m cautiously excited because I am unsure what my partner’s reaction is going to be. I haven’t shared with him that I’m expecting. How quickly do I need to tell him?

— Pregnant Pause in New York

Dear Pregnant >> Tell your partner NOW, so you both can begin planning how to integrate this new little person into your household. If his reaction is positive, it will be the beginning of a happy journey. If his reaction is negative, and because babies are expensive, discuss what it may mean financially, which will enable you to prepare for raising the baby on your own with financial support from him.

Dear Abby >> I’m 17 and will be turning 18 in six months. I can’t wait to move out. My mother and I have a hard relationship. She’s an addict, and it’s sometimes difficult to talk to her. I feel like nothing I do will ever be good enough for her. I plan on moving out as soon as possible, but I need help dealing with these last few months with her. I feel like I am barely holding on. Please give me some advice.

— Tortured Teen in Indiana

Dear Teen >> I am sorry for the stressful situation in which you find yourself. Are there other relatives who might be willing to have you stay with them until you graduate from high school and find a job? If there are, that would be ideal. If there aren’t, start talking with a trusted teacher or counselor at school and explain what is happening because there may be resources in your community for young people from troubled homes.

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