Dear Eric >> I frequently have gatherings at my house, most recently debate-watch parties. Close friends gather, have cocktails and eat snacks. This time, I decided to go for the cozy vibe and have a debate-watch pajama party. I just invited ladies.

Then a guy I dearly love asked if he could come. All the girls said they would be fine with this because he is a sweetheart and not at all likely to be lecherous and inappropriate with ladies in pjs.

Then, I got a text from another guy friend asking if I was doing anything for the debate and I told him no. Although I love him like a cousin, he can be a bit creepy, like he makes sexual comments out of the blue for no reason.

Now I feel guilty about lying. Am I a terrible person?

— Debating Guest List

Dear Debating >> I don’t need a Quinnipiac poll to tell that you are not terrible. You have the right to curate a guest list in any way you see fit. This especially applies to people who make you or your guests uncomfortable with inappropriate behavior. And you didn’t owe your friend the truth if you didn’t feel up to a long conversation about it.

That said, as is ideally the case with any candidate running for office, you can hold your friend accountable. If you don’t like the comments he makes, you can call it out. Hopefully he’ll understand and change. It’s healthy for your friendship and good for the group. Plus, his response will reflect his true character.

Dear Eric >> Our son just received a birthday card from his great aunt, which included a small amount of money. We told him to write her a thank-you card and send it to her. He asked, “Can’t I just text her?”

We don’t know what proper etiquette is these days. Texting wasn’t an option when we were growing up. We can see where the great aunt might like having instant communication with our son (sixth grade) and his number so she can communicate with him in the future. We also understand how it may not seem very personable and do agree there is something about getting old school snail mail. Please advise.

— Grateful

Dear Grateful >> Every time I write about thank-you notes in this column, I open up a tempest in a tea kettle in the responses. Well, call me a sachet of Earl Grey because I’m jumping in again.

He should send a text and a thank-you note. Texting is his age-appropriate preferred form of communication. Sending a quick thanks is expedient and can help him establish a bond with his great aunt.

But it’s valuable for him to learn how to write a thank-you note and when to send one. The text might be a quick appreciation, for instance, and the note can be a physical keepsake in which he tells her what he spent the money on.