Dear Abby >> My brother just got engaged to the “WOAT” (Worst of All Time). They have been dating for 2 1/2 years, and nobody in the family has anything good to say about her. In the past, he always had stable relationships with girls we really enjoyed. But now he’s getting older, his friends are getting engaged and it seems like he’s settling and feeling pressure. They are always arguing, and things he never did before he is doing now — multiple job changes, making less time for family, etc.

Everyone thinks that, as the oldest brother, I should be the one to voice our concerns about her. Would it be too drastic to tell him it’s a bad idea? I was going to say I support him if he can find three redeeming qualities in her because none of us can find one.

— No Fan of Her in the East

Dear No fan >> I do not think telling your recently engaged brother that his fiancee is the “worst of all time” and no one in the family can find any redeeming qualities in her would be welcomed. I do think, however, that as the oldest sibling you could point out that you are concerned because he and this woman argue a lot, which is why you are suggesting they seek premarital counseling to head off any problems down the line. Then cross your fingers that he follows through.

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