Dear Eric >> I’m a 75-year-old amateur songwriter who enjoys recording what I write. I’m also a widower going on three years. When my wife of 42 years was alive, I wrote songs for and about her and us. I’d record them at home and send the recordings to our boys and in-laws who always responded positively.

I received great joy in sharing my love for my wife and my musical talent.

Now I have a live-in girlfriend whom my boys and family all embrace. Everyone says they’re happy that I’m happy and with someone who fits in well.

Now my songs are about her and us. I recently (naively?) sent out the first of the new recordings to the usual recipients and am troubled about whether to do it again.

One son’s cryptic response made me call him to talk it through. Even though he wants me to be happy, he really doesn’t want to hear my songs that embrace someone new. My other son was more accepting, but less so than before. My brother-in-law said he could only listen to half of the song because he’s still mourning my wife’s passing.

Now I feel like a songwriter who can’t share my songs with the people who matter the most in my life. Of course, we’ve all talked about this, but that doesn’t solve my problem. Is my not sharing this joyful music with my loved ones the only answer?

— Music of the Heart

Dear Music >> I just have to say: it’s wonderful that you’re not only a skilled communicator in song, but also in conversation. You’ve saved yourself and everyone else some of the heartache of miscommunication by reaching out to your sons and brother-in-law proactively.

Right now, your loved ones may not be the best audience for the music you’re producing. But your music will continue to evolve and their capacity to receive it may as well. Because the joy of your songs is also intertwined with grief, it’s going to take time.

See how it feels to shift your audience for the time being — perhaps these are just songs for your girlfriend, or other close friends. Also consider an experiment: try expanding your subject matter for a song or two. There might be something else that inspires you to write. And your loved ones may welcome a chance to listen to it and keep this connection.

I know this situation may feel like a rejection at the moment, but know that this is part of the process. The album isn’t over.

Send questions to R. Eric Thomas at eric@askingeric.com.