They say sharing is caring. For author Kevin Alan Lamb, sharing through writing is an essential, powerful experience.
Lamb, a native of West Bloomfield and a resident of Oxford, follows his advice in his new, third book, “Love is in the Details: A Hopeful Journey in Grief.”
On one level, the book is described as a tribute to his mother, who died last year. More deeply, the book is intended as an assist to those who experience the loss of a loved one.
For Lamb, sharing his journey through loss is something he knows works for him and he hopes benefits others.
“Since each of us will lose those we love dearly, it feels like it’s time we better learn to nurture ourselves in grief so we may more readily comfort and guide others in their time of need,” said Lamb, an author, poet, journalist and talent manager. “Thunder, lightning and hard rains will have their way with each of us, but that doesn’t mean we have to navigate these storms like we are alone.”
Instead, readers should “embrace the beautiful journey of self-love, healing, alignment and empowerment.”
Lamb, 39, said he learned much in dealing with loss after the death of his mother, “Mamyte,” who was “my best friend.” At 71, she died the Friday before Mother’s Day in 2013 after battling leukemia and a double lung transplant.
After what he described as the “busyness” of end-of-life rituals — a funeral, writing an obituary and preparing a eulogy — he faced “the heaviness” of ongoing grief.
Writing, he determined, was helpful.
“We are given gifts for a reason,” he said in an interview. “I knew I could make a positive difference in people’s lives. I write to help people feel better. I knew my way forward was writing this book. When I write, I am connected to her.”
In describing his book, Lamb said: “The ones you’ve lost, love and grieve are not gone. … Your methods for accessing them have simply changed.”
A choice to be made, Lamb said, is to “look for and recognize their soul in all the places which bring you the greatest joy.”
Lamb’s book touches on some themes of his two previous books — “Your Daily Guide to Shine” and “The Dying Romantic.” In each, Lamb encourages readers to appreciate blessings and their personal value.
The promise of brighter days is evident in the cover and back of “Love is in the Details.” The front cover shows an ominous thunderstorm, while the back displays a warm sunrise. Grief, he said, “doesn’t stop” but it’s not the end.
“Let it in and find a way to find joy in the journey,” he said.
Lamb’s personal passage as an author dates to his youth when he managed dual passions for writing and baseball. A stellar career as a West Bloomfield High School pitcher earned him a spot on the team at High Point University in North Carolina. But that ended, he said, with a damaged rotator cup. He earned an undergraduate degree in communications and philosophy from High Point and a graduate’s degree in communications and organizational leadership from Gonzaga University in Washington.
As a writer, he has covered sports and music and has now broadened his portfolio by becoming a booking agent and establishing his boutique company, This is a Good Sound.
“Love is in the Details” is available in paperback for $16.99 from Amazon or on Kindle for $5.99.