DEAR ERIC >> I have been in a relationship with my partner for six years. We have two young daughters. The first year was really rough; he was in active addiction, and we lived homeless in my car, in a disgusting motel and even slept outside in the winter. After a few jail trips and two rehab trips, he finally got sober and has been for almost five years.

Nowadays, he has started his own business and it’s thriving. The first couple years of our children being born I was a stay-at-home mom, until he started throwing it in my face that I do nothing at home all day but “change some diapers and do laundry.”

Eventually, I started working part time to pitch in financially and get out of the house. That wasn’t good enough either because, according to him, I wasn’t making enough money and started slacking at housework.

These days all we do is constantly argue. He has kicked me out of our house twice. Once for a night and another time for more than a week. Luckily, my children and I could go to my parents’ house.

He and I grew up in broken homes and toxic environments, we both swore we didn’t want that for our kids but now I’m not sure what to do. I want to fight to keep my family together and my daughters to have both parents in the home. But anytime we have an argument or he’s stressed/tired from work, he tells me to pack my belongings and leave “his house.”

He has anger issues and won’t seek professional help or get on any medication to help. I’m posito help. I’m positive there are other mental health issues, as well. I’m emotionally and mentally drained by the constant fighting and being put down, but I’m trying so hard to fight for my family. Any advice? — Confused and Hurt

DEAR CONFUSED >> Please hear and believe me when I say you don’t deserve this. Your daughters don’t deserve this. I understand your desire to fight for the family you want, but one has to ask whether this man is currently capable of being a part of that kind of family.

His behavior is not only mercurial and unfair — the work you do in the home is a more-than-fulltime job, for instance — but it’s emotionally abusive. Kicking you and your children out of the home whenever he’s unhappy is abusive behavior.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org) provides resources for finding a way out. The logistics of leaving, and the pain of losing the relationship you wanted, may be a block for you. But you’re not alone. There’s help available. They can also connect you with an attorney who can help you navigate custody and child support.

Do it for yourself. And do it so that your daughters have a stable home in which to grow and flourish, where they’ll see their mother being respected and can learn to respect themselves.

Send questions to R. Eric Thomas at eric@ askingeric.com