Dear Eric: Our 30-year-old son moved back in with us two years ago, unemployed and not seriously looking for employment. We insisted that he get a job. While he still goes to work every day, he hates this job and appears to be slipping into depression. He sleeps a lot, barely communicates with us, has almost no social life and shows little interest in activities that he used to enjoy.

He is bright but has a social anxiety disorder which makes him fearful of interviewing for jobs and speaking to a therapist. A few years ago, he agreed to see a therapist, which seemed to help, but after a brief time he quit going. Several times we have urged him to resume counseling, but he has refused. We have offered to pay the cost for him to complete his college education, attend a trade school or see a career counselor, but he has declined all offers.

He is now planning to move into an apartment by himself. While it is possible that a change in his living situation might be good for him, we have concerns that the isolation of living alone with no social network will make his depression worse.

Is there anything that we can do to help him, or do we just have to accept that he is now an adult who must make his own plans to deal with this situation?

— Worried Parents

Dear Parents: I empathize with your concern. It’s hard to feel so powerless, especially when you have such a willingness to offer help. Your son’s move is a healthy developmental step for him. It will likely challenge him in unexpected ways, and it could also help him in unexpected ways.

While this is a road he needs to learn how to navigate on his own, you can support him by maintaining open communication with him about how things are going and how you can be of assistance. Before he moves, talk with him about your concerns, ask if he shares any of those concerns, and ask if he’d be willing to set up a system for checking in. Ask how often he’d be open to you visiting, if he’d be open to help unpacking, et cetera. You can give him space and respect his autonomy while still making sure he has a safety net.

Dear Eric: I am a 70-year-old woman. I am having difficulty knowing how to respond to store clerks who call me “honey” or “sweetie.” I am offended when they address me that way. It feels demeaning and disrespectful. What is the best way to respond when I experience this situation?

— Not Honey

Dear Not Honey: Some of this may be regional or cultural. I grew up in an area where everyone was “hon,” for instance. This isn’t to say that you just have to accept it. But the offense may not be intended.

If these interactions are short, one-time greetings, it may be best to choose your battles. If you’re never going to see this person again, there’s little to gain by correcting them. But if you see someone regularly, you might invite them to call you by your name instead.

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