Dear Readers >> On Sept. 23, I published two letters from older adults struggling to find a connection (“Still Grieving” and “Wants a Connection”). I asked those of you who have successfully found friendship and romantic partnership at a later stage in life to write in.

I shared some of those great responses last Thursday and, as promised, some more today.

In 2023, United States Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, MD, released a Surgeon General Advisory on what he termed “the public health crisis of loneliness, isolation, and lack of connection in our country.” Even before the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic, he said, approximately half of U.S. adults reported experiencing measurable levels of loneliness.

You’re not alone. But there are solutions in the letters below and also in the wonderful new book “Party of One: Be Your Own Best Life Partner” by Meghan Keane, the founder and producer of NPR’s “Life Kit”. It has practical and witty guidance for people of every age and stage of life.

Dear Eric >> After being widowed at 48 after a 28-year marriage, it did take me a bit of time to go through a grief process and reconnect. One conclusion I came to for me was: Divorced people need divorced people and widowed people need other widowed people.

Then I discovered that a good connection was someone already ‘in my circle’: My close woman friend passed away and I ended up marrying her husband who I had not known when I knew her. Common interests brought us together and our common memories and familiarity with our community gave us much to build on. We married after getting to know each other over two and a half years and have already had eight wonderful years together in this new chapter.

— Find Your People

Dear Find Your People >> I’m so glad you found this new love. I think your point about finding those who can share and help us process life challenges is apt.

Dear Eric >> When a non-LDS friend moved to Salt Lake City and was looking to meet his neighbors without joining the church, I recommended he visit and join a Toastmasters club. He did and made many positive contacts. As an international communication and leadership organization with clubs all over the world, Toastmasters weekly or bi-weekly club meetings welcome guests, enjoy hearing the stories or experiences of others and give people an opportunity to mentor and befriend others.

Writing and practicing speeches has the added benefit of keeping someone’s brain active and looking forward not backward.

— Toastmasters Member

Dear Toastmasters >> I love Toastmasters and any opportunity to build the capacity for communication and storytelling.

Send questions to R. Eric Thomas at eric@askingeric.com