Dear Abby >> In the four years my husband and I have been married, his distaste for the LGBTQ community has grown into a passion. He calls it immoral and unnatural. I’ve never tried to change his opinion, but because I don’t enthusiastically agree with him, he is convinced I’m going to hell. He uses nearly every conversation as an opportunity to share his feelings on this issue. Any response I volunteer goes unheard.

Shortly after our wedding, my father revealed he is gay. Thankfully, my husband can be kind to him while disapproving of his sexuality. I’m not sure Dad knows the extent of my husband’s negative feelings. (They live in different states, so they rarely see each other.)

My problem is, my father recently became engaged to his partner, and I’m not sure how to tell my husband. I’m not asking him to agree with my dad’s life, but I don’t want him to steal my joy over this event or make me feel guilty for going to their wedding. Advice, Abby?

— Ally in Michigan

Dear Ally >> Yes, I do have some. However, it is more far-reaching than you may expect. That your husband discounts or “doesn’t hear” what you need to communicate to him does not bode well for the future of your marriage. Your father’s sexual orientation may be abhorrent to your husband, but it is not “unnatural.” If you wish to attend your father’s wedding, do it, and do not feel guilty for supporting him at this important time. You are not going to hell for loving and accepting your father — quite the opposite, in fact.

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