Q I saw my neighbor on the Jumbotron at a playoff game recently. He was in one of those luxury boxes talking closely with a woman I didn’t recognize. I didn’t think anything of it at the time. More recently I’ve seen all kinds of social media about the couple at a concert and their reaction to being caught on the “kiss cam.” This had made me think more seriously about what I saw at the game.

I know my neighbors have had struggles in their relationship in the past. But things have been good for the last several years according to the wife who I’m close with. I am thinking about telling my friend I saw her husband on the camera. But I also don’t want to get anyone in legal trouble. Before I tell her, what kinds of consequences could he face?

A It is truly amazing this scenario doesn’t play out more often in this age of cameras and recordings everywhere. Frankly, no one should ever assume any conversation outside of the door to their home is not being recorded, nor should they assume they are safe from cameras in any public setting.

If you are close with your neighbor and feel obligated to say something about a possible affair, think about the consequences if you are wrong before you say something. What if he was leaning in to hear a conversation because it was a loud venue? What if he was at a work event? Do you really want to raise suspicions and create distrust in their relationship for something you felt was such a minor thing that you never before raised it?

In terms of whether he would get in legal trouble, the answer is no. If there is an eventual divorce as a result of an affair, the only thing a judge would be interested in knowing is whether marital assets were being expended outside of the marriage on a new significant other.

A better way to handle the situation is, next time you see them socially, mention you saw him on a Jumbotron at a game once and leave it at that. If his reaction to your comment is anything like the reaction of the couple recently seen on social media, that reaction might impact what you decide to tell his wife later on. Sometimes, when you really don’t know what is going on, it is better not to say anything.

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