Dear Eric: I have a friend I’ll call “Sally.” She is in her mid-50s and is single with no kids. Both of her parents are deceased. Prior to her mother’s death, she quit her job to care for her. Once she passed, Sally inherited most of her property, including her older van, condo and belongings.

She has sorted through her mother’s belongings but cannot seem to decide what to do with her van or condo, both of which are paid off. Sally has her own condo and vehicle, and has been paying taxes, HOA fees, maintenance and other expenses on these inherited items for years now.

She cannot seem to decide what to do with these things and keeps telling me that her plan is to eventually sell her place and move into her mother’s, which is nicer.

In the meantime, she is losing a lot of money maintaining these items. She doesn’t seem strapped for money and still isn’t working but is constantly on the go helping others (volunteering, babysitting, etc.).

I am concerned about her indecisiveness and worry that she is running away from her problems and harming herself by avoiding dealing with this. We are friends, but not super close so I have not shared my concerns with her. What is the best way to discuss this with her?

— Concerned Friend

Dear Friend: Pick one part of her inheritance and ask her if she’d like your help in dealing with it. The van is probably the easiest place to start. Tell her that you’ve noticed she doesn’t drive it, and you have some ideas about what to do with it, if she’s open.

Now, she may not be looking for suggestions. But it’s likely that some of the decision difficulty she’s experiencing comes from being overwhelmed by logistics. It can be especially tough when paired with grief. She may need someone on the outside to offer her a hand.

Dear Eric: I’m 73, divorced, and in fading health. I’ve never really fit in anywhere in my life. My son had a very rough start in life, and I overcompensated by helping him out far too long. He’s 43 and recently cut off contact with me because I wouldn’t buy a house his wife wanted. I’ve taken out a $15,000 loan for them and they are not making the payments as promised.

In the meantime, his twin sister feels abandoned because of the attention her brother received growing up. She lives across the country, and I haven’t seen them in three years. She has a good job and is raising two honor roll students.

How do I make amends to my daughter? I wonder if I have autism as I’m very awkward and have no real friends. Is 73 too late to be tested?

— Locked Out of Life

Dear Locked Out: It’s never too late to talk to a professional about autism spectrum disorder and I would highly encourage you to pursue it.

Similarly, it’s not too late to make amends to your daughter. An amends doesn’t change the past, but it can set a different path for the future. Try reaching out with a letter first, acknowledging the hurt she felt and apologizing, with specifics, for the part you played in it. You don’t need to give an excuse — indeed, this may not help at this point. It will take time to rebuild a connection with your daughter, and it takes time to learn new things about yourself. But it’s never too late.

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