Dear Abby >> I’m a 48-year-old woman. When I was 17, I hooked up with this guy who was part of my friend group. I knew he had a crush on me, so I decided to have sex with him in his car. It meant nothing to me, but everything to him.

He has tried to reach me over the years. If I was married, he was single. After my first husband died, I did meet up with him briefly. I guess I shouldn’t have done that. I asked him if he wanted to date, but he was married. (His marriage didn’t last long.) Then he was upset that I met a wonderful man and was dating.

That wonderful man and I are now married, and my old high school hookup is pouting and upset. He’s declaring his love for me and insisting that I leave my husband for him. I’m not going to do that. Is the fact that he is still in love with me after 30 years romantic or creepy?

— Got History in Texas

Dear Got history >> It appears your old high school hookup hasn’t grown emotionally since those days. What is going on in his head isn’t romantic; it is disrespectful. His unwillingness or inability to move forward in his own life is somewhat creepy. Say that when you tell him to quit bothering you and your husband and get on with his own life. After that, if necessary, block him.

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