Dear Eric >> Can you offer any advice about a good friend who lets her dog jump in my pool? I have an inground vinyl liner pool so one concern is the dog could damage the liner with its nails or teeth. And my friend does not have the funds to replace the liner if it were damaged, nor would she probably offer.

Her dog chewed apart one of my pool floats that cost $200, and it was never replaced.

Also, when the dog is in the pool it slightly freaks out and tries to jump on me and bites. And when it’s out of the pool it runs through my gardens and digs. It would seem like it’s a no-brainer: no dog in the pool. But my friend thinks it’s hysterical, and she’s such a good friend I don’t want to hurt her feelings.

She and her husband are those people who think their dog is the best thing in the world and why wouldn’t anyone love everything their dog does? I know I should just say no dog, but a precedent has been set, and she has already asked when the pool is opening.

— No Doggy Paddling

Dear Paddling >> Your pool, your rules. The start of a new pool season is a good opportunity to set a new precedent. You can cite the chewed pool float; you can cite the jumping and biting; you can simply say that it’s not something you’re comfortable with anymore. But as would be the case with any human in your pool, you have the right and the responsibility to determine what’s safe and comfortable.

Have this conversation in advance. And don’t put it up for debate. “I love your dog, but I don’t want to have dogs in the pool or in my garden. I’m concerned about the vinyl liner tearing and I’d like to keep my gardens intact. I love hanging out with you and I hope you understand.”

Now, she may receive this as you banning the dog, but that’s not the case. This is you communicating what you need to feel safe and to ensure everyone else’s safety and enjoyment. If she pushes back, refocus her on that point.

Dear Eric >> This is regarding “Also an Animal Lover”, whose neighbor was feeding wild animals in her backyard. I lived next door to a woman who would feed deer and one day my wife counted 32 deer in our backyard ravaging our flowers and bushes. I called the state Department of Environmental Conservation (DEC), and their investigation uncovered that she was also harboring raccoons in her garage and slept with a bear cub in her bedroom! Thankfully the DEC gave her a citation, the animals were removed and her deer feeding was curbed. Your correspondent needs to do more than just website suggestions; she needs to contact her state environmental authorities to get them to curb her neighbor’s behavior.

— Responsible Animal Lover

Dear Animal Lover >> This is extreme and extremely dangerous. In many states, it’s also illegal to feed wild animals, so even if the neighbor is not harboring them in her home, she still puts herself at risk of a citation or fine, in addition to the clear danger presented by some of the animals themselves. If she won’t listen to reason, the authorities need to intervene.