Dear Abby >> I am a single man with no siblings. My elderly father passed away eight months ago. My mother is now in hospice with a life expectancy of weeks to months. My parents have lived long and productive lives, and I’m proud of both of them. We have always been very close. Since their terminal illnesses, I have managed to function fairly well.

My problem is with certain “triggers.” For example, I can no longer go to the beach because I always remember my father’s voice welcoming me home when I returned. The worst one is when people see my childhood photos and say, “Your parents must have loved you a lot.”

I know these people mean well, but I can’t help grieving over the bond I had and have lost with my parents. I plan to seek counseling, but I would appreciate any advice you would have about reducing the effect of these triggers.

— Their Son in San Diego

Dear Son >> Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your father. You may need help coping with the pain of losing him, as well as dealing with your mother’s sad prognosis. When a loved one dies, there are, of course, bittersweet memories. Managing them is an individual process.

If you haven’t joined a grief support group, I urge you to find one. If the group setting doesn’t provide enough help for the overwhelming emotions you are feeling, a licensed psychotherapist can offer more support. The people helping your mother with her hospice care surely can suggest some resources for you. Please don’t put it off. Start now.

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