Dear Abby >> I’m 58 and five years into my second marriage. We lived together a little over a year before getting married. I spent seven years as a caregiver for my parents before marrying my current husband.

We moved to Kentucky from Florida because his mom needed us close, but since the move, he has become someone I hardly know. We finally got his severe depression under control, but he has become petty and vindictive. He’s kind of a bully. He watches nothing but conspiracy theory videos on YouTube. I don’t know what to do. He wasn’t that way when we dated.

I was planning on leaving in a couple of years, but it has gotten a little better since he’s on the right meds. I need to rebuild my credit after the last few years and save money. I’m putting most of my paycheck into a separate account. But it is really hard to move past these last few horrible years. He expects me to take care of his mom, who abandoned him as a child. I don’t want to. I really dislike her. Am I wrong to still be thinking of leaving?

— Stuck Nowhere

Dear Stuck >> Your husband may have married you so he’d have someone to take care of his mother. You paid your dues for seven years with your own parents. Remind your husband that you moved to Kentucky so HE, not you, could take care of his mom, and you will not allow him to foist her off on you. Keep salting your money away, and when you have enough to make a new start, decide then whether you want to move on.

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