Dear Abby >> My husband and I recently moved out of state. His only living relative, a sister, recently came to visit. She has never been married. She is a retired professional and has a good retirement, especially since she has no children.

During her visit, she gave us a housewarming greeting card with a $50 Visa gift card. This was unusual as she has never in 50 years given us money. (She’s very tight with her money and always insists on paying for her part of any restaurant bill separately.)

While she was here, I made a comment about her paying for a $5 coffee for her brother, and she became highly offended. (I knew she would be, so I kind of goaded her.) She then mentioned the $50 gift card she gave us and said I probably didn’t even tell her brother about it even though he was in the room when she gave it to us.

We don’t need her money, and I want to mail it back to her and say thanks for the thought, but we don’t need it. What do you think I should do?

— Thanks, No Thanks in Florida

Dear Thanks >> Really? I think that rather than try to create more problems with your sister-in-law, you should write her and apologize for your comment about the $5 coffee. Instead of returning the gift card, be gracious and accept it. Shame on you for knowingly stirring the pot.

Dear Readers >> Happy Father’s Day to fathers everywhere — birth fathers, stepfathers, adoptive and foster fathers, grandfathers and all of you caring men who mentor children and fill the role of absent dads.P.S. Also, a big shout-out to dual-role moms. I applaud you all — today and every day.

— Love, Abby

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