Dear Abby >> I have been with the same man for three years, and we have been engaged for a year. I love him with all my heart, but I just learned through a phone call that he has been fooling around with men from the internet. I have also seen some messages in his email.

Does this mean he is bi and never told me? Please help me before I make a mistake.

— Hurting in Love

Dear Hurting >> What this means is your fiance is either bisexual or gay. For both your sakes, tell him you know what has been going on, because if he’s unfaithful now, marriage vows won’t change him. Ask your doctor to test you for STDs, and then call off the wedding so you can find a mate who will be faithful — and he can find a relationship in which he can truly be himself.

Dear Abby >> My wife and I have been married seven years. It’s the second marriage for both of us. We have a good relationship and love each other. I told her before we were married that, while I like animals, I do not want a pet. She’s an animal lover and is now pressuring me to get a small dog.

She told me this morning that she might have to leave me and find someone who wants a pet. I told her I understand and will accept her decision. Now I need guidance because I realize that a dog is more important to her than our relationship. Please help.

— Annoyed in Indiana

Dear Annoyed >> I wish you would have stated why you feel so strongly about not having a (small) dog in your home. You and your wife need more mediation than I can offer in a letter. A marriage counselor may be able to help you to communicate with each other more effectively than you have been. For her to have given you a semi-ultimatum was wrong, but it indicates to me that you two may have more problems to resolve than whether to get a dog.

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