Dear Eric >> I don’t know if you are interested in follow-up letters, but here goes. I’m the grandma who was told she was folding her son-in-law’s T-shirts wrong (Clothes’d Off).

I had a conversation with my daughter one morning when we were out hiking. She confessed that she, too, had been told she folded his laundry wrong. Together we decided I would no longer do his laundry but continue the rest I had been doing.

It was good food for thought to read your response, as well as some of the comments. What I didn’t explain originally was that I don’t go in the parents’ bedroom, I run a load of whatever is in the washer when I arrive. My daughter expressed her appreciation for the (very few) things I do besides getting the twins ready for daycare.

I did take one long weekend (as several commentators suggested) and the parents were responsible for getting the kids up, dressed and to daycare without me for several days. It was mostly the twins who were so glad to see me upon my return. They like our laid-back mornings.

After our conversation, my daughter got her husband his own laundry basket and he now does his own laundry. She also got a basket for the twins’ socks, and I no longer spend time matching socks. They love picking their own socks out in the morning and nobody cares if they match or not.

— No More Laundry Blues

Dear No More Laundry Blues >> I am absolutely thrilled to read this. And I’m certain that many readers will be, too — I received an overwhelming number of emails about your situation. We were all up in arms. Thanks for the update.

Dear Eric >> I am a trauma therapist, and I have another solution for “Earthbound Wife”, whose husband took flying lessons even though she still has trauma from her first husband who died in a plane crash. She should find a licensed therapist with training in either EMDR or Brainspotting. She can process her trauma, and she will no longer be “triggered” by the painful memories. The memories will remain, but the emotional hurt will be neutralized. She will then be able to handle her husband’s flying lessons in a more logical, rational way. (I have been doing this trauma work for 14 years.)

— Experienced Therapist

Dear Therapist >> Thank you for bringing up EMDR! I know many people who have found it enormously beneficial.

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