Dear Abby >> My son just told me his daughter, age 26, is getting breast enhancement surgery. My question is, how do I address that when next I see her, probably in several months? It’s not like commenting on a new hair color or hairdo. Old men commenting on female anatomy, particularly that part, are not looked upon favorably.

As I see it, there are two ways that this goes. One, she mentions it to me — probably not likely to happen. So, since she got the surgery to make a visible difference, how should I react? Two, she does not mention it. Without an introduction to the subject, I’m not sure I should make any response. Could my silence be perceived as a negative or as a lack of approval? I’d appreciate your help in formulating a response before it becomes necessary.

— Cool Grandpa in Texas

Dear Grandpa >> If your granddaughter mentions it tell her she looks terrific. Look her in the EYE when you say it. If she does NOT raise the subject, play it cool and keep your lips zipped.

Dear Abby >> For two years, I’ve been having an affair with my married neighbor, “Reed.” All the sudden, his stepdaughter broke up with her boyfriend because he cheated on her, and now Reed has broken it off with me — saying he needs to be a role model to his kids. I’m sorry his daughter is hurting, but if she hadn’t broken up with her boyfriend, Reed would still want this between us. Please tell me what I should do to get over him.

— Cut Off in Florida

Dear Cut off >> Examine the reason you started an affair with someone who was unavailable. When Reed saw the pain his daughter’s boyfriend’s cheating caused her, I suspect he realized how much his behavior could affect his family. By ending this affair, he has done you both a favor.

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