Dear Abby >> I became ill a few months ago and spent 10 days in the hospital before moving to a rehab center to recover. My husband worked at the facility where I became a patient. Two weeks into my rehab, he announced that when I went home, he would not be there, and that he was filing for divorce. He refused to give me a solid reason why. Our 30-plus-year marriage has had difficult times. Each time we went for counseling, he was uncooperative, going so far as lying.

I learned he had been having an affair (his third) with a woman who would visit the facility to see family. He has now moved in with her, and the divorce process continues. I am in my 70s and always tried to be the wife he wanted. I am broken and cannot seem to move on. He was the love of my life, and I am crushed by the way he did this. I still cannot get him to admit he’s having an affair. I often wonder if he lies to her the way he lied to me. In the past he lusted after women. I believe he has taken his emotional problems with him in this new relationship.

How can I let go and move on?

—Stunned in South Dakota

Dear Stunned >> If you are truly wondering whether your almost-ex-husband is lying to the woman he is now living with, you can make book on it. Liars lie because it is convenient. He will probably eventually cheat on her as he did with you. Like it or not, life has offered you the opportunity to move forward. PLEASE take advantage of it and talk with your attorney about what your rights are as a wife of more than 30 years in South Dakota.

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