Dear Abby >> As I approach my mid-30s, many friends have paired off and gotten married. How do I manage friendships in which I’m close with one friend but don’t enjoy spending time with their new spouse? While they are not overtly offensive, they’re just not fun to socialize with.

Should I slowly pull away from the relationship over a couple of years, or do I confront my friend about the issue of not wanting to spend time with their significant other? It seems abrasive to say, “I don’t like hanging out with your husband.”

— Knew Them When

Dear Knew them >> Women navigate these sticky situations by getting together for “girls lunches,” spa days (if it’s in the budget) and exercise. I do not recommend telling a newlywed her husband isn’t fun to socialize with, because not only will it not be well received, it’s also guaranteed to get you stricken from their guest list.

Dear Abby >> Two months ago, I began seeing a male friend. He’s involved with my close female friend, but she treats him like garbage. I’ve witnessed it myself. I’m not sorry for dating him; she deserves to be alone. They have no children. I’m not trying to be foolish about this situation. Do you think I’m a terrible person?

— It’s Complicated

Dear Complicated >> No, but your soon-to-be former friend will as soon as the news reaches her. And if you think she treats her fella like garbage, batten down the hatches — because a load of it is coming your way.

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