Q: My husband died a couple months ago. He had a living trust. When he died, I asked a friend for the name of a lawyer to assist me to deal with his estate issues. The lawyer asked for a retainer of $5,000, and he charges $400 an hour. I did not realize that our condo was titled as tenants in common rather than joint tenants. We had to open up probate and get the title changed into my name. The title is now in my name and the lawyer billed me another $4,000. We have distributed money from the estate and now he’s billed me another $3,000. For what? I don’t know, but this is becoming a money pit, and I feel I am being taken advantage of. Should I change lawyers?

A: Our condolences on the loss of your husband. It looks like two unfortunate circumstances have collided into one big mess for you.

First, your late husband set up a living trust to hold title to his assets but apparently never put his interest in your home in the trust. Second, you and your husband owned the home as tenants in common and not as joint tenants with rights of survivorship.

What’s the difference? If you own property with your spouse as joint tenants, when either owner dies, the remaining spouse becomes the sole owner of the property. On the other hand, tenants in common each own a 50% share in the property. When one of you dies, that share does not flow automatically to the other owner. The deceased owner’s share of the home would transfer according to the deceased owner’s wishes in that person’s will or as provided by the laws where the home is located.

Now to your question. Your attorney bills out at $400 an hour and you’ve paid them $12,000 for 30 hours of work. We hope the attorney has given you an itemized list of the hours that they have spent working on your situation. We don’t know what issues your attorney has encountered, but we suppose that the attorney has had the will entered into probate, appeared before the probate court several times, prepared motions for the court, handled the transfer of the title to the home from your husband’s estate into your name, and likely performed some other tasks.

We don’t know if 30 hours is too much or just the right amount of time, but having a will probated, along with the related tasks required by probate court, can take time. And that time costs money. That’s why we try to help our readers steer clear of probate court.

What could you have done differently? Perhaps you could have asked the attorney more about the process. Then the attorney could have given you a detailed understanding of the parameters of the work being done.

But here you are. So your next step is to call the attorney and find out what’s left to be done with the estate. If you’re done with the probate process and with future billings, you’ve solved your problem. If not, this would be the time to ask what’s left and get an estimate for future billings. We don’t know if it would be beneficial for you to find a different attorney if almost everything is done. There is a cost as a new attorney gets up to speed on your case.

In talking with the attorney, you might find out that your husband’s estate was more complicated than just the home being mistitled. But the goal is to finalize the probate work.

Unfortunately, once you need to open up probate for a loved one, the process can go on for months or years.

We don’t know where you are in this process, and it seems as though you don’t know either. So pick up the phone and call the attorney’s office. We hope the rest of the probate process is less painful.

Ilyce Glink is the CEO of Best Money Moves and Samuel J. Tamkin is a real estate attorney. Contact them through the website ThinkGlink.com.